tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3671815.post3308220153861224226..comments2024-02-07T03:12:59.031-05:00Comments on Blogenspiel: A serious post, brought to you by Patrick StewartAnother Damned Medievalisthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05231085915472400163noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3671815.post-45186071979680330552009-12-01T09:12:51.885-05:002009-12-01T09:12:51.885-05:00Wow. That describes with frightening accuracy an e...Wow. That describes with frightening accuracy an ex-boyfriend of mine, with whom I lived for two years. (He was never physically abusive, but very jealous, moody, and prone to give me the silent treatment.) I've thought that considering him to have been emotionally abusive was a bit much, but reading this list.... Well, that changes things.heu mihihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08529298049179816825noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3671815.post-87899831970209646142009-11-29T09:05:43.244-05:002009-11-29T09:05:43.244-05:00WN, just remember that one of the best things you ...WN, just remember that one of the best things you can do is to help them all remember that your brother's reality is not everybody else's. It won't keep the damage from happening, but it will help give them the tools for dealing and help them develop the alarm buttons I was talking about.Another Damned Medievalisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05231085915472400163noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3671815.post-18503342797105783192009-11-29T08:05:27.851-05:002009-11-29T08:05:27.851-05:00it was part of a very formalized system of rules. ...<i>it was part of a very formalized system of rules. They knew when they broke them, and expected to be punished if caught. Not that that makes it much better (if at all), but there's not that constant wondering about what the rules are, and whether you might set things off.</i><br /><br />Yes. Yes, exactly. I used to be so jealous of kids whose families had clear rules and punishments for breaking those rules, whereas my brother and I just had to rely on quick reflexes to try to duck the hand that lashed out with no warning. I'm afraid my brother is now repeating the pattern to a lesser extent with his daughters; he's not a hitter but is a grabber and a yeller, and my nerves are always shot after a visit with him; who knows what it's doing to the girls? I hope and pray that his wife can keep it in check (and I think he would never strike her; abuse is for kids in my family, the opposite of Stewart's story), but she's walking the fine line of trying to protect her kids while keeping her husband happy.<br /><br />Anyway, what I really chimed in to say was "thank you" for posting the list of signs of emotional abuse, which I'd never seen and which is frighteningly familiar.What Now?https://www.blogger.com/profile/04017629066466055668noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3671815.post-67877869019232917072009-11-29T07:48:47.310-05:002009-11-29T07:48:47.310-05:00Yeah, by which time I suppose I'd better have ...Yeah, by which time I suppose I'd better have a paper for you...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3671815.post-13449603070814312892009-11-28T11:00:02.607-05:002009-11-28T11:00:02.607-05:00Next time we get together over drinks ... Which w...Next time we get together over drinks ... Which will be in May!Another Damned Medievalisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05231085915472400163noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3671815.post-35027970856156359352009-11-28T09:41:00.997-05:002009-11-28T09:41:00.997-05:00Argh. And yet these people's strength of perso...Argh. And yet these people's strength of personality means that they will rarely if ever struggle to draw in another victim. The trouble is that certainty and fervency are attractive...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3671815.post-28816051694759234492009-11-28T01:16:45.052-05:002009-11-28T01:16:45.052-05:00-prints-
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Thank you!-prints-<br />-studies-<br /><br />Thank you!Diggerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14851524413793098615noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3671815.post-68493327834580326442009-11-27T22:56:18.791-05:002009-11-27T22:56:18.791-05:00You're welcome. Just trying to do my part... :...You're welcome. Just trying to do my part... :-)Another Damned Medievalisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05231085915472400163noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3671815.post-87656186625893215642009-11-27T22:27:02.691-05:002009-11-27T22:27:02.691-05:00Holy shit.
Okay, if and when I'm ever ready t...Holy shit.<br /><br />Okay, if and when I'm ever ready to start dating again, I'm gonna post that whole "emotional abuse" list somewhere I check it often. My last two relationships were mild versions of this. And although I can honestly say that the Other's behavior came from their own issues, it doesn't mean that I should have to put up with the consequences.<br /><br />Thanks, ADM.Notorious Ph.D.https://www.blogger.com/profile/08700875559325201086noreply@blogger.com